Another night out

posted by The Vidiot @ 10:56 AM Permalink

and now, I'm even more perplexed.

I know, I know. If I go on like this, I risk soundling like a bitter old woman. But go on, I must.

Last night's foray took us to a 'meet market' in Park Slope. It wasn't a meet market in the way meet markets used to be. Basically, it was just a bunch of same-sex groups out to be seen and maybe even hook-up, but more to just have fun. Now, unlike the last place we went to last week, the techno club, where everyone was a little grungy looking and it was very dark and the music was horrid, this place was decently lit, had tolerable music and the girls looked like girls. But what I noticed was that the guys were, well, like girls. When they chatted with the girls, they talked about whatever the girls wanted to talk about. Now, I know, some of them were being polite so they could 'score' or whatever they call it these days, but I don't remember guys being able to even talk like that with girls. The guys I knew would scoff, roll their eyes and go off somewhere with friends and make rude and annoying comments.

I guess I'm just sort of perplexed by the whole blurring of distinctions between men and women thing. Why do that? What's the point? To be non-threatening? Mr. Vidiot says that the lack of distinction points to the power of hegemony because the impetus for agency is threatened. [Well, of course he would put it that way.] I personally just think that for there to be distinctions, there has to be depth of thought, and I just don't see any depth in these people.

Then again, I'm probably just an old woman who is performing her role as "when I was a younger, men and women were different and we LIKED it that way."

But honestly, thinking back to when I was in my 20s (and yes, I remember it well), I don't recall too many guys who were straight, but sort of feminine. There were a few, but there weren't many. Most of them were just guys. Big, dumb guys.

And we LIKED it that way.