Monday, January 24, 2011

But I always thought that I'd see you again

posted by The Sailor @ 6:28 PM Permalink

So there's this girl I met in 7th grade and we went to the movies and stuff, and dated and fought, and stuff. And I saw her again a few years later and we dated and fought and stuff. And we lived together, and dated, and fought and stuff.

In between times she and I moved a thousand miles apart, she got married, I got tours, she got un-married and I got her. And we dated and lived together and stuff, and fought.

Over the years I proposed to her twice. Years apart. She was right to turn me down, I ain't, or at least wasn't, husband material. Smart girl, smart woman. I probably broke her heart more than she broke mine, but I never forgot about her. Years later, when I lived 3 thousand miles away I heard she got married again and moved a thousand miles away.

In the last few years I've been trying to contact her, mainly just to apologize for being a jerk, but kinda maybe hoping somehow in the back of mind that maybe she was un-married again. Hell, I even joined FaceBook just in case she ... but it's hard to find your friend on FB if you don't even know her last name.

But then I got a call from a mutual FB friend that she had died 3 years ago in an accident. I called that person a liar. Then I got angry at that person. The Kubler-Ross steps aren't quite as defined as they look in print. But if this a joke, it's a pretty fucking elaborate one to put a headstone in the ground.

Of course I'm handling it in the mature way that I've now grown up in. Fist sized holes in the wall, and "I ain't drunk, I'm just drinkin'" For my friends who are tempted to call me? Please don't, I don't feel like talking. I'm OK, just going thru the shit we all do.

For Debbie, I'm sorry, you deserved better than me for years, I hope you found him. "But I always thought that I'd see you again"



At 8:38 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

Living, and loving, and fighting, but what makes a relationship most tolerable for any extended amount of time is the making up ... now THAT is a talent for which most of us -- at best -- have only modest skills.

It is the making-up times that are best to remember.


At 9:24 AM, Blogger Jannie said...

Dear Sailor.
Your special lady served an important purpose in your life -- she taught you the lesson of love. That's good stuff. Treasure the beautiful memories of moments you shared with her.

Vidiot Mom

At 10:24 AM, Blogger The Vidiot said...


I'm weepy for you.

Hang in there.



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